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Originally Posted by The Adult Broker
Glad you posted...actually another kid told the teacher just to fuel it all.
But you are right, let them fall, get up and give them freedom for decisions. which is exactly what happened.
she fell by lowering herself, but got up, admitted it and knows it was her freedom to choose who she was going to be in that moment.
May not have been right in that instance but she is aware it was the wrong decision.
so it all goes back to does she get grounded even though she has learned her lesson more than what a grounding would? that is where I'm at.
thanks for the input for sure though!
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That sounds very reasonable of you. I suppose the more important thing is the lesson, however I think you're playing a bit dangerously to assume she's not learning something else here too. Like all she has to do is feign learning and she takes all punishments off the table? Kind of like learning that if you cry loud enough, you get what you want.. It may not be apparent to her this go around, but she'll catch on. Learning a lesson is one thing, doing your punishment is another.
You don't have to ground her. What about making her do something nice for someone she doesn't like?