My number one rule is to use the least amount of adult service providers that I can. I know it is a sad unfortunate statement but having been around for quite a while and watching what has happened with various hosting companies and payment processors it's simply how I feel. I use Payoneer. I use them because they are a venture backed company that came into adult as merely an afterthought and they have no aspirations of making movies that I know of. lol . Adult is not their core business. This has allowed them to build a business not based on the "adult" fantasy of how business is done, but instead how real-world business is done.
You can read more about them here:
http://techcrunch.com/search/Payoneer