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People simply don't do a good job of vetting their partners; and, they marry for the wrong reasons. The epidemic of divorce in America is a clear manifestation of the bad judgment so many people have.
And you can say whatever you want about "but people change" and all that shit, but the truth is a tiger can't change his stripes. The other person didn't change -- you just didn't accurately access the person in the first place.
I looked for several qualities before I chose my life partner: she had to be pretty, smart, have healthful habits, make sound judgments, not be a frivolous spender, have a good sense of humor and love to play, react well under pressure and stress and in crisis situations, be attentive to me and my needs.
I did a good job vetting, and we've been together 9 years now, have a 4-year-old, and often still feel like it's a new, fun relationship.
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