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Originally Posted by TheSquealer
haha.. this reads like you followed a step by step guide on "how to turn a girl off by being a bitch".
the only true way to put it in the past as quick as possible and shut those chemicals down in your brain, is to start seeing more girls,... the more, the better.
Otherwise, just be honest with yourself. It is what it is. It will pass soon. She's telling you in every way that she's not interested without being mean. She doesn't want you. She won't want you and she will never be with you. Don't look for hope in texts, don't read into everything and just accept that it isn't going to happen and there are 10,000,000 more "very special and unique" girls out there just like her. You're young, one day you will laugh about these moments and how silly you are being and be embarrassed to even talk about how you acted/are acting right now. Man up.
In the future, don't act like such a bitch when pursuing a girl. Be an alpha male, not a bitch. Don't chase her. Don't shower her in gifts... think of your greatest masculine hero and ask "what would he do". You'll find better answers in that than in following your instincts which clearly suck. He definitely isn't acting like a twat. He's attracting women to him through his appearance, his character, his charm, his behavior, by being strong, by being interesting, by being a leader etc. He's not chasing them like a sad and lost puppy.
Women are biologically wired to find a strong mate. Strong character, strong personality, physical strength, style, intelligence, strong social skills etc. You've demonstrated yourself to be the opposite of everything she wants in a man (whether she consciously knows what she wants or not). Accept that you fucked it up, call it a learning experience and start over.
Oh... and Merry Christmas
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This is the only post you need in this situation. It helped me think, too, and I am not facing what you are dealing with (but have in the past).
When I was shaken and depressed about a girl leaving me (we lived together and one day when I got home I saw her bags packed) I turned to the Internet and Googled 'How to get over your ex-girlfriend" and found a great Blog with many experiences. They all ended up like the advice from TheSquealer. There were so many guys sharing the basic aftermath of a breakup (how they felt, the obsession/depression, etc) that it took me like 5 days to read everything. LOL But it helped (misery loves company) and then, after a couple weeks or so, I went out and met some girls. In time I was fine.
So don't let a lot of your life go by focusing on this situation. Focus on the FUTURE man. Set Goals, be social, work out, watch funny movies, work harder and it will all be in the past before you realize it. Good luck!