Originally Posted by The Porn Nerd

Here's the bottom line mate: you have to act as if you do not need them or want them then they will want you.

It's like going into a bank for a loan. When you actually NEED the money you will probably get turned down for this reason or that. But if you have tons of money banks will fall all over themselves to give you more.

This is why I mentioned Cary Grant and TheSquealer mentioned James Bond. Act as if you are the person you want to become and you WILL become that person. You are spending way too much time here "taking notes" when mostly everything we are telling you comes from an unconscious place, a natural place without having to think about it.

There are 4 stages of mastery. Anyone who has driven a stick shift car will know what I am talking about.

Stage 1: Unconscious INcompetance: You don't know jack shit and you don't even know you don't know jack shit.

Stage 2: Conscious Incompetance: You don't know jack shit but now at least you KNOW you don't know jack shit - and are opening to learning.

Stage 3: Conscious Competance: You are getting better but you still have to "think" about it, check your notes, follow a script. Until...

Stage 4: UNconscious Competance: You just KNOW how to do something. Driving that stick shift is so natural now you don't even think about the clutch or shifting. It's become a part of you.

It takes time and experience to get to Stage 4 in any endeavor but if you are aware of where you stand (I am guessing Stage 2 right now) you can get there much faster.

In other words: Zen. "Be, do not do." Is that Zen? LOL

(Have not seen Suits but will check it out for sure.)