here is one for lawrence o connor:
Q. Why do I ejaculate so quickly?
This is one of the most common sexual issues for men, but fortunately, it's one of the easier ones to deal with, especially with a sensitive partner. Keep in mind ejaculatory control can be learned, and this process is similar to the way one learns to control urination early in life. The approach I recommend to develop control of ejaculation is based on a technique originally developed by Dr. James Semans. This method involves stopping sexual stimulation at the first sign of ejaculation. The partner resumes sexual stimulation once he is no longer close to ejaculation. With practice, the male can relax and enjoy more stimulation without ejaculating. A step by step method for gaining ejaculatory control (with or without a partner) is simply outlined by Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld in the book, "The New Male Sexuality" (Bantam, 1993) and the video "You Can Last Longer: Solutions for Ejaculatory Control" (The Sinclair Institute, 1992). Either resource will be very helpful in overcoming rapid ejaculation.
