Should I continue to pursue her? - Page 2 - GoFuckYourself.com

Herb Kornfield · 09-16-2013, 06:10 AM

Piece of advice grasshopper:

If you cant fuck her silly the 1st night to where she's sore for a day or so, you lost your chance.

If you go back after night 3 : You are the 3rd guy that's fucked her that week.

Find another girl.

No one will impressed you took a ride on the village bicycle.

andrew1009 · 09-16-2013, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by signupdamnit

I only read your first post. I don't know how young you are but my advice is to let it go. Good relationships just tend to naturally flow without all the problems. Bad ones usually have problems like this right from the start and they usually stay no matter how hard you try. Find someone where it all just mostly clicks into place right from the start. You'll save yourself lots of hassle and possibly a divorce or two!

If there were actual "problems" from the start, I would let this go no problem. The haunting comes from how GOOD it was at the start, as short lived as it was.

signupdamnit · 09-16-2013, 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew1009

If there were actual "problems" from the start, I would let this go no problem. The haunting comes from how GOOD it was at the start, as short lived as it was.

What you described are a ton of problems and basically two people who either aren't compatible, don't know what they want, or are not sure if they really want the other person. Sorry man but that's what it is. Trust me for a RELATIONSHIP things should go a lot smoother without all this drama. There are always little things but good relationships don't have all these problems and issues constantly. For a FB now that is a different story.

I learned this the hard way. I spent 7 years in a bad relationship which should have been aborted in the first week! Constant problems and issues, neither of us knew what we wanted or who we were. Constantly fighting in order to make it work. Square peg in a round hole (bad analogy there, my apologies!) That was when I was young and didn't know any better. Your 2002 join date suggests you're probably at least around 30 so I bet deep down you know it too. If not you'll probably know it soon. Good luck.

Simon · 09-16-2013, 06:33 AM

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So many fish in the sea.

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Jel · 09-16-2013, 06:39 AM

So, 2nd date/time you fucked her, you were in a jealous rage, and she's the flaky one? W t f ....

O MARINA · 09-16-2013, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew1009

I'll try to explain this situation as best as I can without dragging on.

Met said chick on the subway by chance about a year and a half ago. It was at a time when I was moving out of the country that very week, so we didn't get a chance to go out until over a year later.

Anyways, we finally went on a date. Things went amazingly well, great chemistry and no one we met could believe it was our first date together. On top of that, spent the night at her place and all was great.

Two weeks went by, she ended up inviting me to a get together with some of her friends but timing was wrong (I live hours away) and wouldn't have been able to make it. Next thing I know she has pics with some new guy pop up on her facebook, then they are in a relationship.

Anyways, about four months go by, they break up and she asked me out again. We went out again but I was too pre-occupied with being the rebound guy (for the second time actually, the first time we went out was just after she ended another relationship). So anyways, I let it interfere with our night and I was not able to perform in bed because I was too pre-occupied and in a jealous rage.

After I got back home, I asked her for another chance, she said "we'll see"

She messaged me two weeks later wanting to be in a committed relationship. I told her I didn't want to commit at this time but liked her and told her she was an awesome chick and just wanted to get to know her better.

Two weeks went by and I started thinking that I really couldn't look at other women the same, and I did like her over anyone else. I finally messaged her telling her that I only liked her and no one else.

She told me it was too late and now she's seeing someone else.

She says it is non sexual at this time, they are neighbours and just walk their dogs together but she "wants to see what could happen and doesn't want any regrets"

She blamed me for shrugging her off twice and showing no interest in her when she was "throwing herself at me" because I never asked her to be my girlfriend after only two dates.

Now I'm at a point where I feel like I've made a mistake and I am literally obsessing over winning her back and "making things right"

I reminded her that I didn't shrug her off and that she was in a four month relationship two weeks after our first date and she blew me off the second date.

She blamed me for playing the "blame game" and to "stop it I'm letting this go".

How is it possible that she had feelings enough for me that she wanted to be my girlfriend two weeks ago, and now tells me I blew my chance and I should have told her sooner.

This is the reason I don't date much.

Trying to figure out if I should try to work this out, or just forget her and move on?

Really looking forward to the GFY branded advice here.

Where did you paste this from? TLDR

O MARINA · 09-16-2013, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by SimonSays

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hahaah this is awesome.

_Richard_ · 09-16-2013, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew1009

lmao, she asked me to but I didn't feel like it at the time.

Sorry to ruin your fantasy, I don't like getting shit on my dick!

waiittt... so you only banged the girl once, on the first date, and on the second she asked you to fuck her up the ass, and you said... no. cause you didn't wanna get shit on your dick, and you were in a jealous rage?

on your second date. she asked you to put it up her ass.

id say no real loss

#firstworldproblemz

nico-t · 09-16-2013, 09:19 AM

sounds like a skank. Dont fall for her bullshit.

nico-t · 09-16-2013, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by L-Pink

Right now she's moaning and screaming for god while some dude has his morning wood balls deep in the hungry ass you didn't want to fuck. He's going to pull it out, stick it in her mouth to clean then pump a Peter North sized load all over her face before he farts and goes back to sleep for a half hour while she staggers to the kitchen and makes him waffles for breakfast in bed.

But hey, I'm sure she's thinking of you right now too ??.

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Tom_PM · 09-16-2013, 09:25 AM

Nope.678

scubadiver626 · 09-16-2013, 10:05 AM

You should definitely marry that one, no regrets down the road, no way.

It should be all roses at the start ffs!
Long term relationship success comes down to how you resolve disagreements/problems. Move on!

Seth Manson · 09-16-2013, 10:31 AM

Have you tried adultfriendfinder?

Rochard · 09-16-2013, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by L-Pink

You should start an advise column.

I have a "zero bullshit" policy which has worked rather well for me. If a girlfriend gave me flak or was caught in a lie, instead of trying to work it out or work around it I walked. It's the same for my friends - if you have too much drama in your life and it spills over into my life, you get dropped as a friend. If a friend of mine calls me from jail at 2am because they got a DUI and need to be bailed out, fine, I'll be there as quickly as I can - we all make mistakes. The next time it happens call someone else.

This has worked great with dating. I walk away from bullshit and drama. After you've walked away from a dozen relationships "quickly once there is bullshit or drama, the one you are currently dating quickly pick up on this - you get once chance and that's it. Most chicks were gone in a month or two; Anyone who lasted past that was drama free for the most part.

My wife and I have been together for twenty years, and we've had one fight: July 2nd, 2006. I won the fight at the time, but years later she was in fact proven right. My kid is the same way - drama free.

suesheboy · 09-16-2013, 11:12 AM

I know how you feel but I can boil it down to this RUN!

pimpmaster9000 · 09-16-2013, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by andrew1009

Yeah she wanted it up the ass but I don't like doing that.

the problem is you not her...

_Richard_ · 09-16-2013, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by suesheboy

I know how you feel but I can boil it down to this RUN!

fogfever · 09-16-2013, 11:28 AM

post link to her Facebook please

~Ray · 09-16-2013, 11:34 AM

ask a few of your friend's to happy hour this week.

it'll pass in time

Supz · 09-16-2013, 01:09 PM

I didnt read what you wrote. Because if you have to write this much shit on a msg board about a girl. Youre wasting your time with her., and with us.

AmeliaG · 09-16-2013, 01:19 PM

A chick who needs to be in a relationship that badly and constantly was probably faking her personality with you the first time, when she seemed great. Drop that drama like a hot potato.

andrew1009 · 09-16-2013, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by _Richard_

and on the second she asked you to fuck her up the ass, and you said... no. cause you didn't wanna get shit on your dick

#firstworldproblemz

First date actually

_Richard_ · 09-16-2013, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by andrew1009

First date actually

dear god man, why do you even need to ask

flee!

RandyRandy · 09-16-2013, 04:05 PM

I'm so glad that I just like to tie women up and fap over them. Fuck relationships.

SilentKnight · 09-16-2013, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by L-Pink

Right now she's moaning and screaming for god while some dude has his morning wood balls deep in the hungry ass you didn't want to fuck. He's going to pull it out, stick it in her mouth to clean then pump a Peter North sized load all over her face before he farts and goes back to sleep for a half hour while she staggers to the kitchen and makes him waffles for breakfast in bed.

But hey, I'm sure she's thinking of you right now too ??.

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Oh L-Pink...you hopeless romantic.

ErectMedia · 09-16-2013, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Rochard

I have a "zero bullshit" policy which has worked rather well for me. If a girlfriend gave me flak or was caught in a lie, instead of trying to work it out or work around it I walked. It's the same for my friends - if you have too much drama in your life and it spills over into my life, you get dropped as a friend. If a friend of mine calls me from jail at 2am because they got a DUI and need to be bailed out, fine, I'll be there as quickly as I can - we all make mistakes. The next time it happens call someone else.

This has worked great with dating. I walk away from bullshit and drama. After you've walked away from a dozen relationships "quickly once there is bullshit or drama, the one you are currently dating quickly pick up on this - you get once chance and that's it. Most chicks were gone in a month or two; Anyone who lasted past that was drama free for the most part.

My wife and I have been together for twenty years, and we've had one fight: July 2nd, 2006. I won the fight at the time, but years later she was in fact proven right. My kid is the same way - drama free.

I'm pretty similar, years ago a girlfriend lied to me, didn't cheat just lied and I cut her loose. Stalked me for a bit just randomly showing up and shit but if I can't trust her fuck it. I've eliminated some friends as well over the years that were either negative or doing dumb shit. Good to surround yourself with positive/successful/honest people and prune the losers away that only bring ya down or that always take and have nothing positive to offer.

CDSmith · 09-16-2013, 05:01 PM

I'll interject here to say thankyou to Seth Manson and L-pink for making this thread far less painful than it started out being.

Thank you.

Seth Manson · 09-16-2013, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by CDSmith

I'll interject here to say thankyou to Seth Manson and L-pink for making this thread far less painful than it started out being.

Thank you.

andrew1009 · 09-16-2013, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by CDSmith

I'll interject here to say thankyou to Seth Manson and L-pink for making this thread far less painful than it started out being.

Thank you.

Nothing like GFY to put things into perspective

SuckOnThis · 09-16-2013, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by lezinterracial

If you find a girl that sucks the shit off before you see it. That is a keeper. I let that one get away. Miss her.

Not sure if my main criteria in a mate would be someone who eats shit, but to each his own.

andrew1009 · 09-16-2013, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by SuckOnThis

Not sure if my main criteria in a mate would be someone who eats shit, but to each his own.

Damn, maybe that's why I'm so messed up. Been getting my life advice from GFY all these years.

L-Pink · 09-16-2013, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SuckOnThis

Not sure if my main criteria in a mate would be someone who eats shit, but to each his own.

There's a 5 second rule ya know.

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