Signs You're Not Mentally Strong, You're Just Acting Tough

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1. You mask insecurities.

Acting tough involves developing a persona that says, "I'm the best." But behind that tough exterior, there's often a lot of self-doubt.

Rather than waste energy trying to cover up their weaknesses, mentally strong people invest time into improving themselves. They acknowledge their shortcomings and strive to become better.

2. You think failure isn't an option.

Saying, "Failure isn't option," won't prevent you from failing--but it might prevent you from trying. People who act tough are usually more interested in showing off the skills they already have, rather than learning anything new.

Mentally strong people view failure as a stepping stone to success. They trust in their ability to bounce back from setbacks and they're prepared to learn from their mistakes.

3. Your self-worth depends on how others see you.

People who act tough are very concerned with their appearance. Their self-worth depends on other people's opinions of them.

Mentally strong people, however, aren't worried about proving anything to anyone but themselves. They're willing to ask for help and they're fueled by their internal desire to grow stronger better.

4. You suppress your emotions.

Often, the only emotion tough people feel comfortable expressing is anger. They hide their sadness, fear, and excitement from others as much as possible.

Mentally strong people are willing to admit when they're afraid and they aren't shy about shedding a tear once in a while. Rather than ignore their emotions, they monitor them. They're acutely aware of the ways in which their feelings influence their thoughts and behavior.

5. You deny your pain.

People who are intent on acting tough pride themselves on tolerating a great deal of pain. Whether they treat their bodies like a machine, or they refuse to acknowledge an injury, they view their willingness to keep going as a badge of honor.

Mentally strong people aren't interested in tolerating pain as a means to impress others. Instead, they learn from pain, and try to turn suffering into an opportunity to become better.

6. You think you can do everything.

While healthy self-confidence is helpful, acting tough involves grandiose proclamations like, "Nothing will ever stop me." People who act tough often overestimate their abilities and underestimate the work required to reach their goals.

Mentally strong people are well-prepared for the realities of a challenge. They acknowledge potential obstacles that stand in their way and they recognize how much effort they'll realistically need to invest.

7. You try to control other people.

People who act tough thrive on feeling like they have power over other people. They want to be perceived as being 'in control' and they often micromanage others or make unreasonable demands.

Mentally strong people, however, are interested in controlling themselves, rather than the people around them. They're invested in regulating their thoughts, managing their emotions, and behaving productively, despite whatever circumstances they find themselves in.

7 Signs You're Not Mentally Strong, You're Just Acting Tough | Inc.com

[Best-In-BC]

Man, you post a lot of sudo science crap. You must be a week bitch.

[SilentKnight]

More bullocks.

[CaptainHowdy]

Do you even lift, bro?

[gnawledge]

Originally Posted by Best-In-BC

Man, you post a lot of sudo science crap. You must be a week bitch.

Week *laugh* WEAK

[SBJ]

I was here but there was too much BS to read all that..

[The Porn Nerd]

Actually I think this is SPOT ON.
In fact, it reads like a contrast between me (the 'mentally strong' one) and my ex-girlfriend (who always acted tough but was in fact one of the weakest, most scared and insecure people I've ever known).

Spot on I say!

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[JFK]

Originally Posted by Best-In-BC

Man, you post a lot of sudo science crap. You must be a week bitch.