AM I Bad for wanting to beat my daughters boyfriend up ??
 

I came very close to beating my daughters boyfriend up last night but he ran off. I am not a violent person but when he puts his hands around my daughters neck and threatens to strangle her I did become very pissed.
My misses was yelling at me to leave him alone when I kicked off.

Now Im in her bad books for chasing my daughters boyfriend away, and my daughter is not very happy with me either..but what else am I supposed to do. Im kinda scared now that he has done it once he will do it again. The guy is 21 years old and I know that they do have arguments from time to time but this went way to far.

Was I wrong for chasing him away ???
In my mind any father would have done the same thing but my misses thinks I should have called the police

Well.
If someone did that to my sister I'd probably shoot him and then drive a Cadillac over his ass.. and if my woman screamed at me for any thing I'd put her over my knee and have some quality adjustment time.

you are just as bad as the cunt of a boyfriend the OP was referring to. :2 cents:

why did he puts his hands around your daughters neck and threatened to strangle her? maybe they were playing wrestling?

oh man ... are you ill or what? do you really think that he strangle her in front of you? are you sure it wasnt just a game of love? are you sleeping with them so you know what are they doing? sorry, maybe my english is bad, i tried many time to understand this one, but looks like i didnt get what you mean ... or i get and i totally dont understand ... you wasnt young? or you was, but first touch after marriage, i know ...

They started argueing with each other up in her bedroom I think it was about him being lazy and not helping with the baby, they were not playing about

I suppose if he was physically abusing her you should've phoned the police.


And perhaps you are not as halfpink as people said you were.

good job

next time grab a butcher knife and threaten to hack off his hands if you ever see him do that again

hm that is some normal reaction man....he deserve that

I vote for this one. :2 cents:

baby? 21 y/o? and they still live in your house?

i would of beat both their asses the fuck out.

Mom, sister, daughter... any family... anyone comes near them... they don't walk away

No man worth his salt would even lay a finger on the fairer sex... just my humble opinion.

No they dont live in our house they come down and stay every so often but because the baby is only 3 months old they are both getting tired and angry with each other I dont think either of them realised just how much work a young baby is

thats exactly how I think

You were not wrong... and the women are just being women and thinking irrationally...

Probably better that you didnt end up harming him though. If it does ever happen again then do like others are saying and call the police and have them file a report if not take him to jail.

hands on neck is far worse than a punch to the face. there is a life line there and if thats what he goes to over an argument, then imagine true life tribulations coming about... she will end up dead...

at the very least, have a stern talk with him ... and i mean stern, as in scaring the every living shit out of him... the butcher knife thing sounds about right...

Don't sweat it...you did exactly what most men would do...PROTECT THEIR OWN!!!!

You did the right thing being the only MAN there who would protect her! :thumbsup

Hunt him down and kick his ass all over town

Allow me to date your daughter, you'll adore me...

No you did completely right, for the next time, print out some images of the rack trap from saw ( http://saw.ugo.com/images/traps/the-rack.jpg ) and put them in a folder with "building plans 'wifebeater-trap'" on them and place the folder somewhere he'll see it :D

kick his ass

You can't undo what's already done. The real question is. What will you do next?

Is that the father of your grandchild?

Anything for the family.Simple as that.

You under reacted if anything. I would have advised kneecapping him.

I would say your daughter and wife over reacted. Putting your hands round a womans neck isnt messing around. No man should EVER lay a finger on a woman no matter the situation. I had a situation one time when 3 women were beating on some girl I knew, I had to hold them back and protect the girl I knew while the women kept hitting out at me coz I was trying to stop it. I didnt lay one finger on them, I took the hits till more people came to help out. It lasted over 2 minutes with them trying to get to her and slapping me and kicking me. I never even thought about hitting them, just protected my face and balls lol.

You need to have a strong talk with your daugher, find out if this has happened before and if it has he deserves a good ass kicking out of sight of any witnesses.

grab HIM by the throat and smash his fucking head until it is soft ..... It is abuse .. and if he does it once .. he either has done it before and or will do it again .. He needs help ..
I took a course with my EX ... she was a totally abusive person .. verbal and physical .. there is no way he is gonna see the light so to speak .. hands on a woman is a no-no .. lots of us have come close .. or crossed that line .. bottom line is it is wrong .. and it happening with in your family, you are the one that has to deal with it .. she won't .. she probably is attracted to that type mentality for what ever reason ... it is going to get worse before it gets better .. I am speaking from experience

Wow.. such a nice guy.. and what if they upped the ante by bring a knife to the party? What then? Girls can be just as mean as or worse than a guy especially if they are pissed off enough.. clearly you haven't seen any girls act this way before. :2 cents:

wtf is wrong with your wife and daughter? Do you live in a trailer park or what? Look... if I caught a motherfucker putting his hands on my daughter like that he would be lucky to still be walking.

Get's my vote :thumbsup

trailer park 4 lyfe

I think you did the right thing. hell sounds like to me he got off lucky, you should have beat him with a tire iron.

Having gone through a similiar situation lately with our youngest daughter, I'd say you did the right thing - hell, I would've taken it farther. Hands around your daughter's throat indicates anger management issues and is just the start of further potential abuse.

I don't put up with anyone who lays a hand on a woman - no matter the circumstances. No excuses or second chances.

Fortunately in my situation, my daughters BF didn't physically abuse her...but smacked a wall with his fist next to her head. That was enough for me. I told him if he layed a single hand on her in the future - he'd be hospitalized and taking his meals intravenously.

Spare the consequences. Family is family and should be protected at all cost.

End of story.

its oh so romantic before the baby's born then it all goes to hell. Had I been in you place, I probably would have done something similar:2 cents:

I feel very sorry for the child.

If he tried to do this with you there, what do you think happens when you ARE NOT there to see it.

I would have a serious conversation with him outlining how to show respect to the mother of his child, his in-laws, his child and the home that is yours.

If that respect is a problem for him to show, then it will only get worse over the years and your daughter can find herself the victim of a lot worse than what's happening now.

It needs to stop now. You and HER need to take action.

i vote for this one too :2 cents:

Being honest with you I didn't think about that. I just rushed over to protect the girl I knew. After 2 minutes some more people rushed over and seperated everyone and a few minutes after that the Police arrived.

I dont know what I would have done had they produced a knife. I would maybe have grabbed her arm and tried to stop her using it but I'm happy to say I didnt need think about that.

You should have waited till there were no witnesses, then killed him and after calling the cops claim self-defense.

I think you where wrong for not catching up to him and give him such a humiliatin bitch slap that he'd be sorry for the rest of his life.

No need to injure him to the point of going to jail but a good bitch slap can always deliver a strong message.

wreck him haha

Fuck that shit. You gotta look out and protect your own because who knows how far it will go one day.

WOW!! Me and my girlfriend have a 18 month old daughter. It can be tough, but i never ever put hands on my girl or ever yelled at her. My daughter will grow up watching how i treat her mother and think that is how a man is sopose to treat a woman.


And as for putting hands on my daughter, there is no 2 sides to that story, ass whooping is the only thing he will understand!!!:2 cents:

if dood put his hands on your little girl... dood would have 2 broken arms this morning bottom line....

violence is not the answer

Sounds like a normal reaction, but things aren't like they used to be. There was a time when you could hit someone and get away with it. I wouldn't even think of hitting my worst enemy these days...you'd either get sued or be in jail in seconds.

you are not bad at all
I would have done much worse to him

might have just been rough sex.

When the situation is violent, then that is the only answer.


I am way diplomatic, but some people only understand violence. I happen to speek that language very well.



U touch my daughter inappropriately, i will get you. end of story!!!!

Depending on how intense the situation was I'd do anything from chasing him away like you did to give him a serious beating.