Originally Posted by SmokeyTheBear (Post 18568822)

get married, the ring helps you pick up women

Originally Posted by raymor (Post 18568211)

LOL my wife is a Twihard too.

I'd take almost any girlfriend, or no girlfriend, over my first marriage, in which I married whoever came along and neither of us knew much about how to be a married couple. After that, I dated a LOT of women. Mostly short dates, like lunch dates, up to three per day.

Through that process of going out with so many women to find the right match and doing a few other things, I found something that most people say is a fairy tale. I never thought I could have a marriage as wonderful as what I have today. I'm excited to see what's coming next and I know there is a lot more I haven't experienced, but where I'm at now is pretty awesome to me. I am deeply grateful to the people who showed me how to get here.



I think there are two or three major parts, and marrying the right person is one of those. I married whoever came along the first time. The second time, when I knew that I could not find a better lady if I went on a thousand dates, I proceeded to look for my one in a million. The coolest chick I'd ever dated wasn't enough, I wanted the most amazing woman in the state.

Being the right person is the other. For me, if I'm not very skilled at this marriage thing, I can't expect to have a great marriage. I had to put some work into first learning how to be the kind of man who has a great marriage, then into actually DOING it. Absolute honesty can be very difficult. Even more I had to put in some real work and seek advice from others on how to become a man who would attract a one-in-million woman like my wife.


I'm really surprised because I expected the conflict and compromise that some have mentioned. Someone mentioned the committee of two. I was introduced to the concept of "one flesh" and when we keep that in mind there is no conflict. The ancient wisdom is really onto something with ?And the two shall be one flesh; after that they are not two, but one flesh.? My experience in this marriage is that my wife and I argue about as much as my arm argues with my leg. You know how sometimes you have trouble making a decision, when you think to yourself "on the one hand, this, but on the other hand, that"? I think they call it "being of two minds" about something. Keeping in mind "they are not two, but one flesh", that's how my wife and I react when we see things differently - the same way we each react when one of us sees two sides of something. At rare times we may get on each other's nerves just a bit, but in the same way that a sore wrist gets on your nerves. It may bug you a bit, but you don't get angry and start a fight with your wrist. Being one flesh, yelling at my wife makes as much sense as yelling at my wrist.

So what are the pros and cons? Dating a bunch of people and having some fun while you're young is a fun and valuable experience. Today, though, that feels as far away as my first kiss on the playground. Fucking is great fun. being in the middle of the one flesh adventure, fucking kind of reminds me of cotton candy - sweet and fun, but just so much fluff compared to a real meal. I feel like I'm getting the meat and potatoes today. As happy and deeply satisfied as I am, we still haven't had kids and seen how putting effort into having a great relationship with them can be, so I'm sure there's a lot more I haven't experienced yet.

This post is already too long, but if by chance anyone is curious about it, I was taught a specific procedure to find and attract the right woman. I won't add another three paragraphs to this post writing about it, but if anyone would like to hear what I was taught and worked for me let me know.

Originally Posted by PornerBros (Post 18568801)

Originally Posted by Paul Markham (Post 18568681)

Seriously the pro is. Having someone you can't live without. To share your life with. Celebrate the ups and support each other through the downs.

Originally Posted by CDSmith (Post 18569049)

Getting a wife so you have a maid? That's a new one. No wonder the D rate is so high. :D

I think "being alone" gets way too bad a rap. So many fear it yet in the past I've found that it's really not something to be feared. Oh gee, you can go out when you want, do what you want, eat where you want, (and WHAT you want, WHEN you want), watch what you want on TV, fart when you want,.... yeah, oooh, I'm scared just thinking about it! ha.

I can think of several people I know who are married or in long term relationships who could benefit from getting out and being alone and single for a year or more. I also know a few people who are single and alone right now who are great people and deserve to meet someone suited to them (assuming that's what they want). But it always seems to be the ones who fear the dreaded "being alone" the most that need it the most for some reason. Because they're the ones constantly seeking their happiness and validation from others when they really need to find a way to be okay with themselves first.


Me, I've done everything BUT the M word. Lived a fine single life, have been in several long termers, and have spent time alone. And I'm fine with all of it. If someone great comes along in future would I consider marriage? Of course I would. In the meantime I think I'll go fishing and get out of the maid's way.

Originally Posted by shade001 (Post 18567955)

I can honestly say that if I manage to escape my marriage with my cojones intact I will absolutely NEVER get married again.

The only small advantage to marriage is filing taxes. Other than that is is a nightmare if you like making your own decisions, answer to yourself and have any integrity you want to keep.

At BEST marriage is a constant state of compromises, making decisions by a committee of two and being nailed down by someone who thinks they should know every little move you make.

At worst...........let's not even go there. RUN! Run while you can. That's my absolute best and honest advice.

Don't misunderstand. I don't hate my wife nor am I bitter. I just see clearly now how entangled I am legally to another person and getting out will be costly to say the least.

Originally Posted by O MARINA (Post 18568845)

Good because plenty of North American men look for other qualities in a partner for life.
This is why I will avoid USSR mentality ! :)

Originally Posted by CyberHustler (Post 18567950)

Originally Posted by Mutt (Post 18568180)

then that would be the majority of people since the divorce rate is over 50% - which makes your supposition that it's just a matter of finding the 'right person' not very realistic. there's much more to the high divorce rate.

Originally Posted by CDSmith (Post 18570030)

Originally Posted by AJHall (Post 18568029)

I think the trick is to marry a bisexual woman who believes in polygamy. I'm much happier being married than I was being single...but if I ever found myself single again, that's what I'd do.

Originally Posted by fuzebox (Post 18568058)

People that complain about being married obviously aren't married to the right person...

Originally Posted by VenzuelanChick (Post 18568197)

Dont get married until you live with your girlfriend for a while and are absolutely sure she wont bother the crap out of you.

Originally Posted by mavruda (Post 18568226)

The good thing being married:

One day you wake up as old man - alone, no one around - sometimes the silence can be too loud.

Originally Posted by OldJeff (Post 18568319)

I have been married / divorced / and married again. I guess that shows what I think is better for me.

Originally Posted by O MARINA (Post 18568708)

Why you think all women cook and clean the home?

Originally Posted by woj (Post 18568848)

seems easier to just buy the ring? :1orglaugh

Originally Posted by O MARINA (Post 18568708)

Why you think all women cook and clean the home?

Originally Posted by shimmy2 (Post 18569198)

get yourself 2-3 good regular GFE superwhores, pay them well, treat them well, and you end up with a much more honest and rewarding situation than marriage with no stress. you have a mutually benifical relationship sans manipulation because you are paying her, alleviating expectations and bullshit, which allows you to have an even deeper friendship/relationship/fuckbuddy thing going on than you can ever possibly hope for with a wife that expects you to give all and literally lay your life down for her in the name of 'love'.

Originally Posted by CDSmith (Post 18569049)

I think "being alone" gets way too bad a rap. So many fear it yet in the past I've found that it's really not something to be feared.

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But it always seems to be the ones who fear the dreaded "being alone" the most that need it the most for some reason. Because they're the ones constantly seeking their happiness and validation from others when they really need to find a way to be okay with themselves first.

Originally Posted by MisterPeabody (Post 18568864)

Wonderful post man!! Very inspiring. The trouble sometimes is finding the "right person", especially when you are in the porn biz. "What do you do?" "Oh, I sell porn on the Internet....hey wait, where ya goin'?" LOL

Share the details of how you found your one in a million? Was it NLP? :)

Originally Posted by CyberHustler (Post 18567950)