This is one of those things you are best not knowing about. Even if he gets over it in his head, it will probably still come back every time they fight.

Personally, I think she deserves credit for admitting it. Most people would have just denied it.

The supposed video tape will never surface so it becomes her word against a mob of haters (who must be seriously stupid to connect their facebook pages to a tale like this).

i lik poo..

amazing story... :upsidedow

dump facebook

Strangely enough, Since i moved to PL 7 years ago, I have not actually even heard a single mention of golf or peanut butter. Both seem to be practically non-existant here.

Fun fact - assuming the average ejaculate is around 5ml (wikipedia), she potentially swallowed 125ml of cum that day. That's 1/3rd of an american beer bottle.

Amen to that :)

Its all about standards. What for some seems to be to sick, others might love/enjoy :-)

We all know he will marry her then later down the line they will get divorced.

damn! proposal on Facebook?! He forgot to tweet that shit!

It does not matter.

So honoured you selected us as your moral guides. Now instruct her to watch lots of porn and enjoy life.

shit!!!!!!

words of wisdom :)

and one from me: you can wash sperm from hair, but if your soul is dirty, you can never wash it

so what if she fucked with 20 guys, even yesterday? does that makes her bad person?

It doesn't make her a bad person but 20 guy gangbang puts her pretty fucking far out of wife territory. There are further issues then that she just DID IT. She wasn't the victim, she wanted it. She liked it. Fetishes like that don't go away. I don't blame buddy for being worried - every time he kisses her she may have just blown 30 guys somewhere.

Very well said - what keeps going thru my mind is what if it was a guy that had done this or one of the 20 something guys that were involved here talking... would he be forgiven or would he be praised?

I am not saying to forgive or not to forgive, if you love someone, you love them for the good and the bad and we can't go back and change things we did as kids - what kind of nasty things did he do as a stupid kid? If you love someone - you just do - if you THINK you love someone then it's clear he'll never get over it - maybe he just loves the idea of being in love? I'd be asking that more than anything.

To me, if you can't get past bad decisions and so on, then it isn't real true love to begin with! Sure some things are worse than others, but if real true love is there, you take it and move on and love them.

I was thinking the same thing - and that isn't fair to her or to him - but it's human nature to drag up everything ever done when they have a fight about who forgot to put the lid on the salt. lol

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If he loves her and she loves him, get over it, past is the past.

People are doing crazy shit when young. And not only - the correct sentence is "People are doing crazy shit all the time.

How come that guy found about that video and the fact that she was gangbanged in college ??? Was he in the crowd, or someone else told him about that ? Or his darling confessed - in all the ways he should find the strength to pass that thing and leave it behind.
If he loves her nothing else should have matter - everything should be left in the past - past is behind - leave it where it was. What matters is the future.
It would be hard to trust her in future - but here's an advice from me / if the orher guy is taking any - If he wants to live longer, he should have accept that and think about that no more. Or to have like 25 cheats with no matter to calm his soul - and not to tell her after
- until he gets even with her in his mind ??? But I guess that won't fix anything.

But the key is to accept it - and to think about other things - accept. Focus on life - and other stuff that matters: job, career, health, kids. He should have act normal as before.
Tell him to imagine like he got 7 days to live. And in these 7 days he has to speak with everyone he knows - to tell them things he wanted to tell - good things, to do things that he always wanted to do, so the people should remember him. Let him imagine all this - that he's about to die and to be no more - there will be no grudge or things like "whore" wife. He will probably enjoy the morning sun, the fact that there's a beautiful sweetheart standing next to him, kids, house, dog - and fuck the rest of the stuff !!!!
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I would be thinking of the wild ass shit I could get her to do with me.

" Bitch dont tell me you dont do anal. I saw the video! "

Well, like I asked him; "do you say your vows before a priest, minister or pastor?"
That would imply something about Christianity wouldn't it?

If he is getting married by a Rabbi then just replace Christian with Jewish above.
It still means the same thing.

You're getting hung up on religion and pretending that most Americans don't get married in
Christian rooted ceremonies.

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This is a really odd statement. I have done stuff that was fun to do that I did not seek out later. This doesn't mean she will cheat, do it again or any of the above. It was 20 years ago and from the way her friends feel a need to share, she was not doing it every weekend since.

This is what it has to do with this thread:

http://www.marriageequality.org/religious-vs-civil

What I said is equal to this :

"Change your values and there is no problem".
"Civil marriage does not have that "value problem" but Christian marriage does."

I don't give a fuck about religion and should have known that using it in the argument would cause some shit.

But thanks for the rant against something someone else cares about.

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would people in this thread saying to get over it marry an ex pornstar? you see all the stuff they've done, out there forever, etc.

or does it matter that it was behind closed doors?

Then why share it?

I don't understand why this is just coming out now when they are engaged. Friends of which party are telling the story? Why did they wait until now? Are they trying to warn the guy that she may have other issues in her life that she needs to deal with? Or are they trying to out her because they have some old grudge?

There seems to be something else going on here.

so she fucked 20+ guys whats the big deal?...my god some of you sound like you are not in adult at all :1orglaugh

clearly he has to get gangbanged by 25 girls to make it even

How is that related? If you are in adult you also should have your wife do pornstarish things to other men?

uh

either that or he isn't comfortable with the concept of his future wife having been gangbanged by 20+ dudes

she sounds nice

It's his loss if he lets her go. Being sexually adventurous is normal and healthy. So what if she banged 20 guys years ago. If he loves her and she loves him, get married.

Exactly my thoughts

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-fCXd_GypIk...k/s1600/11.jpg

case closed

yeah, double negative....

No one is hauling her out to the cornfield and burning her as if she were some evil witch. This is between him and her, no one else.

I agree 100%. That's why I prefaced my original post with how sweet of a girl she was and such a sweetheart. I'm sure she's changed in 20 years, and she's probably embarrassed by what happened 20 years ago. But that's not the point here. She could be Suzy Homemaker super mom, wonderful wife, great lover, etc, etc. But the point here is can HE get over it? I think she's a great person. But once again, can he move on? Can you find a way to not bring it up if they get into an argument? Can he not stay up at nights wondering about the details of what happened to the woman next to him 20 years ago? That's the ultimate question and it has nothing to do with her current character.

btw Rob is your "friend" you?

Yea, is this the same "friend" who wanted to know why it burned when he pissed?


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The hypocritical viewpoints posted in this thread make me embarrassed to be a dude. Every single dude who's condemned this girl would have been part of that GB 20 years ago in some way, shape, or form -- whether you stuck something in her, or stuck her dick in one of her holes, or laughed and high-fived as it went down, or shot the VHS footage.

I wish I could tell her to avoid this dude who's considering backing out of the engagement. Like the plague.

If I loved her, sure, why wouldn't I? I'm stunned that not only in 2014, but on a porn board of all places, people are quick to judge a person's character based on:

1. what they did 20 years ago
2. what a single male/female did previously, sexually, where it concerned consenting adults only

whatever ANY person did in the past, ALL those things made them the person right here, right now - good/bad/crazy/etc, it shaped the person you loved 5 seconds before you found out about something they did before they ever met you.

It's funny this 'level' stuff too... sure sucking off every guy is ok, but not shock horror *this!!* - there's millions of people who would be horrified if they find out their wife fucked 10 guys in college, and how most people find that a ridiculous reaction, myself and whoever else in this thread who see it as past experiences see some of the responses in this thread equally ridiculous.

How is it different for a girl to fuck 25 guys in a night/weekend, than it is for a guy to fuck 25 girls in a night/weekend? There is none, except the laughable notion that a woman 'shouldn't' do those things, based on some controlling males however many years back who decided 'this is how women should behave'. What a crock of shit :2 cents:

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i can understand the "it was a long time ago" thing and maybe the right thing to do would be say fuck it and marry her anyways. I personally couldn't handle that information about my wife/girl though i may try it would probably eat me alive no matter how long ago.