I think we need to see the video before any judgement can be passed.........

Being an active "participant" in a gang bang vs. the one being banged is like comparing anal experimentation by sticking your pinky finger into your asshole vs. letting a horse butt fuck you and cumming inside you. Or better yet, you finishing the horse off by giving it head and then swallowing, while his buddies trot over to finger cuff or double stuff you.

Yes, I am VERY AWARE this is a double standard! My girl gets turned on when I tell her about me with multiple girls at once, it turns her on. To her it makes me look like a stud, like one woman can't handle me -- in reality, I'm not that great. She wants to hear every minute detail, as if I were Hannibal retelling stories of his Carthaginian conquests. BUT..she's also had threesomes, and I don't want to hear a single detail. I know the guy involved was her ex-husband, but that's all the information my brain can process. That's enough information for me, thank you.

Guys are just wired different than women. Is that a double standard? I sure as hell don't have an answer.

i'd say you are very insecure about yourself. also it is not typical for a woman to want to hear about her husbands/boyfriends sexual exploits. women are typically way more jealous than guys.

i'd also go as far to say being a participant in a gangbang with this many guys is closer to being gay and not something i'd want people to know than the girl who wants to get fucked by a ton of guys. not that theres anything wrong with that but the amount of time these 25 or so guys spent naked wanking off around each other would definitely exceed any amount of time they spent fucking her.

so now the question.. how has this come up AFTER they decide to get married?

I think that some of her facebook "freinds" outed her after she changed her status to engaged.

It's by all means a double-standard, but fuck it. I too would have that double standard. The only detail I should ever hear from my girl about sex with her ex's is about my dick being bigger.

how did he find out??

Where the fuck is that video!?

I would DEFINITELY call off the engagement.

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No way, it is NOT acceptable.

When I was in college I saw many guys walk away from a gangbang at a drunken party.
They wouldn't be hypocrites; they would just know the reality of events that you never attended.

Option 1 ya say fuck it long time ago and at least ya know you can stick a cucumber up her ass with no complaints.

Option 2 if you're gonna keep bringing it up or it will always bother ya then never gonna work as you'll keep mentioning shit and then she will get sick of it and jet out on ya.

Nothing to forgive as it happened before his ass not during so just a question of can he personally deal with it which I'm gonna guess is a no. :2 cents: