Why don't you start by leaving now?

Actually, I'm pretty tempted to just start shredding all mail that comes no matter if it looks like a check or not. No use spending money to forward it or to pay some legal person to be a go between. I'm tired of dealing with it. The back seat of my car is covered with her mail. I could shred it, bag it up and give it to my friend John (who owns this nickname) to use as fire starter for his wood stove. That would be of better use. :)

Okay, stop posting for a few minutes so I stop feeling compelled to reply. Hee Hee. I want to watch this movie I rented.

This thread will explode when Belinda and Mark get home, I'm sure. But they probably won't let me reply anymore.

'Night.

That would be a federal crime. Write Return to Sender on it, put it back in your box and be done with it.

- Brent

Donny, I've been in your shoes before. I've been heartbroken. My boyfriend of nearly five years left me for another girl after I found out he'd been cheating on me. This is a man I loved with all my heart, someone I fully expected to marry and spend my life with. We lived together and worked on a few online projects together.

For months, I was devastated. Bitter, deceived, angry, hurt, jealous, you name it. There'd be phone calls, emails, journal entries, etc. Often, I'd call him with the excuse of dealing with "leftover business"... some sites, mail addressed to him, belongings he left, etc. But once that issue was handled, the call would quickly degrade to "How the fuck could you do this to me?" or "Why can't we give it a second chance?". There were calls from him too. Sometimes, he'd call or email. He'd tell me he was unhappy with her, that he missed me, that he was sorry. Sometimes, I was stupid enough to meet up with him. I'd get all dressed, do my make up, do my hair, thinking he'd want me back. Instead, we'd just fuck and he'd drive me home.

After months and months of depression and erratic behaviour, my friends finally had enough. They refused to stop seeing me until I cut off all contact with him. They promised to do anything they could until he was out of my life.

Slowly, I stopped the phone calls, emails, blog entries, etc. I ignored all his contact attempts. I didn't read his emails and I deleted his voice mails. I even went so far as to block his blog using parental controls. All letters to him went in the garbage. Any affiliate accounts we used together were transferred under his name or canceled. All domains were transferred to him. All belongings he left were trashed.

It took two months before this was all done. And it was hard as hell. But once he finally stopped calling, I felt free. I felt amazing. This was a few years ago. Sure, I still think about him. And sometimes, I still feel a little bitter or nostalgic. But it no longer controls my life. And you know what? Recently, we ran in to each other at an event. We were civil and even chit-chatted for a while. He added me to his MSN a couple of days later and now we talk from time to time. We'll never be best friends and we'll never get back together, but we can at least be friendly with each other.

So just write this girl out of your life. Cut off all contact with her. Stop trying to be the good guy. Move on. Time WILL heal all wounds.

If it could be proven. But if it's used as firestarter, well, it would just be "lost in the mail" somewhere....

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh

'Night.

PS: I won't shred her mail. It's just an amusing idea.

Because by the time i hit your age (that you are today) your children has already died because of age. You see how stupid all this is?

You are here telling someone that, that person is doing something wrong and painting a picture of him that makes him look pathetic.

You seriously need a realitycheck, people are laughing and making jokes about you behind your back about your situation. Yet you are to blind to see this.

Like i said, hit the park and feed the fucking birds. Hook up with some woman in your age and take her to the park too. You probably have less then 5 years left.

It has nothing to do with the church. There are a lot of people who are in the industry and are devout Christians. I think it might have a little more to do with the fact that you tied yourself to a group that is openly anti-porn.

And I think this board doesn't like hypocrisy. You "turned your life over to God", yet went about doing a lot of things that aren't very Christ like. Harassing people, divulging personal details of people, discussing intimate private details of someone else's sex life, libeling them, and continuing to try and be part of an industry that you feel is evil.

I'm not exactly sure where I heard these things, but it may be something you should look into.

My situation? :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

Committing a federal offense is very Christ-like too. Why not just write "RETURN TO SENDER" on the envelope, leave it in your mailbox, and go on with life?

Sounds familiar.

By the way, Belinda's not really a bad person at all. I understand how she got to where she's at, and it's mostly my fault.

Mark, on the other hand, is a pile of steaming dog crap in my opinion. I don't hate him, but he's not a good person IMHO.

I just want to make it clear that all the bad I've said about Belinda was fueled out of pain from being hurt. Many of my poor decisions in this issue are because I felt like I could keep her from being hurt by him. I realize I can do NOTHING for her. It took awhile to accept that because we were so close for so long. My mind couldn't grasp that it was all over.

Belinda hurt me, but most of that was brought on by stupid decisions *I* made. I wish her nothing but good, which she will never find with him (or me).

Okay goodnight. Hopefully for real this time.

Nobody said I was Jesus Christ. I've never claimed to be perfect. I know more than any how far I am from being what a Christian SHOULD be. I'm very slowly changing. VERY slowly. It could go faster if I made better choices, but it's going.

if I was trying to come off as being perfect I wouldn't write so much about my faults all over my blog.


Damn it, I've said goodnight several times and then hit the button to reply again.

Good. Night.

DONNY
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Dude, give it a rest..

She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen...

All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away..



Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard :2 cents:

Dude, give it a rest..

She is a fucking female.. They are a dime a dozen...

All you are doing is fueling the fire, if you just ignore them and this, it will eventually go away..



Find yourself a new girl to start a new life with, it is really not that hard :2 cents:

it was stickied first...

Donny sorry but someone has to say it man, HARDEN THE FUCK UP!!

as much pussy as there is in the world, where is there a 4-page gfy discussion over ONE? :eek7

Dude, come on now. Do you realize how bass ackwards that statement right there is. You're complaining about an adult message board not being open minded with you regarding being involved in church but yet the church is one of the most close minded institutions in the world. I swear some people are completely blinded by organized religion it's not even funny.

holy shit i was late on this one :(

Funny drama for sunday noon :)

Im just glad my life is not that complicated.

Amen brother :thumbsup

You become more of an asshole with every post you make.. hmm a designer that's just lost any work from any other female again... clever eh?

As for what you're going through... Been there, done that, got a t-shirt..
as have many of us..

Learn from what those with experience tell you..

1. Return all of her mail to sender... ALL OF IT!
2. Have the truck towed if it's still there..
3. Take any of her personal stuff to her aunt's place.. if there is any..
4. Delete any email from her without reading it..
5. Hang up if it's her.
6. Remove yourself from this board as you have no further reason for being here.. Then it won't matter who says what about you.. Why should it be important to you what people on GFY think...

No matter who may be right or wrong in this situation... REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THE EQUASION!
There is no need to contact them/her for any reason from this point on..
As for the beagles... go get yourself another one.

As for your involvement in church.. If you're now a practicing christian, then practice it! As the song goes... "Jesus Take The Wheel"..
Forgive those who you feel are down on you, then move on... Burn the bridge..

Trying to defend yourself on GFY makes no sense whatsoever. You're allowing it to matter when it shouldn't..

Bottom line... Someone in the trio needs to be a responsible party... Let it be you, then accept your situation as a new start to bigger and better things.. Walk away and don't look back or you're just allowing others to control you.. not a good thing..

Luck

Excellent post, it says it all. :thumbsup

Why did I always think you were a guy?

Always fun and amusing to see adults acting like children and vice-versa.

Donny, isn't it time to be the bigger man and just move on? Extricate yourself rom this mess and shut the door on this chapter of your life for good, period. As hard as it is to do it will be worth it in the long run, trust me.

Unless... unless you three like this drama... ongoing, neverending anger, etc.

If so ignore this post and have at it. :D

Pretty good Cliff's Notes

I wonder what the top dogs at adult.com think of their employee bring all this bullshit to the board. Yes this forum is called Fucking Around And Programme Discussion. But this guy isn't reflecting too well on his company.

Time for all three of you to grow up, sort shit out and leave each other alone to get on with your lives.

they like traffic :winkwink:

I should have probably closed with that in my other post.. :)

I remember all the advice I was given years ago while I was going through all the emotional stuff.. It's easy to say when on the oustide looking in, but not as easy to do when you're the one going through it..

I think the one thing that finally turned me around was a complete stranger sitting next to us at the bar where I was crying in my beer.. All he said was, "I'm gonna have to move or you're gonna have to realize that her personal life is no longer any of your damned business"

It caught me off guard, pissed me off, but he was right.. Made me think a whole different way and it got lots easier all of a sudden..

Was funny that with all the advice, it took some half drunk guy spitting out 1 little line that did it.. :)

I hope you bought him a drink.

Someone needs to find a hobby....

Actually, he managed to pull the conversation totally away from my pitty party and turned it into a great time.. He was a trip.. and yes.. several of his drinks were on me.. :)

Strange thing was... I never saw him in there before that, nor after that.. Kinda like he was there for a reason... [Insert Twilight Zone sound here] :)

donny, if you really want her to wonder and think about if she has made the right decision, ignore her. act like it doesn't effect you, like she wasn't as important to you as she though. this drives women insane, of course its a bit late for that now but as others have said, many have been in your shoes making the same mistakes you've made but often times once you leave them alone, they start to really think.

Wow... this is getting uglier and uglier

At this point he shouldn't be the least bit concerned whether she thinks her decision was right or not.. She made the decision and it's hers to live with... not his..
No sense in him sitting around wondering if she'll regret her move and maybe reunite with him.. That'd just prevent him from getting on with his life..

I think he just needs to put it all down and walk away from it completely..
Churches have some hotties sittin' in those pews.. He'll be ok if he allows himself to be so..

My biggest wonder is why in the Hell I keep coming back into this thread.. :)

god works in mysterious ways

he sure does :1orglaugh