yes it is.

Your daughter should probably get out of the relationship. Guys who are violent don't stop and only get worse. He'll just end up hurting her badly one day or killing her.

i would have beat the ever livin fuck out of him.. fuck if they are mad at you..

Sounds like you need to chase her out as well. :2 cents:

keep it on the down low handle your biz

sounds fucked up. good luck anyway.

Chasing him off after he put his hands around your daughter's neck?
He's 21, you should have beat the living shit out of him (provided that you can). Then you should have gone to his parents house and beat the shit out of them. Then you should find where he hangs out and beat the shit out of his best friends, associates and kid sister. Then find out who his favorite band is, and beat them mercilessly, followed by ritualistic beatings of all local teachers who have had him in class, counsellors from his summer camp, lifeguards at the local pool where he swims, all the bartenders where he drinks, and the guy at the quickie mart where he buys his cigarettes. He should never be able to step foot anywhere in your town without seeing the ramifications of your rage. Ever.

Seriously though, he's set bad precedent with this behavior, you should still call the cops. Don't let that behavior become accepted. Arguments are a two way street, for the sake of their mental health and that of the child both your daughter and this man should enter counseling.

And brother, don't listen to wifey or your daughter when it comes to deciding action in physical or violent situations. They're supposed to tell you not to do it, and you're supposed to do it anyway. Violence is the arena of men. :2 cents:

in retrospect, i think that maybe sitting this kid down in a 'public' area and discussing your concerns with him might be a more worthwhile route.

if the kid is used to violence, it's possible that he'll dismiss it on every level other than personal safety. i think trying to explain in a healthy and mature way about how one must control emotions or 'gtfo' might go farther than kicking his ass

If he puts his hands around her neck again beat the living fuck out of him, he is 21.

Wow some pretty mad replys here anyway I went round to their flat and he aint there either I phoned his mother and she says she hasent heard from him.
My daughter is going to be staying with us for awhile with the baby.
She has spoken to him on the mobile and he was suposedly crying saying he was sorry but she wont tell me where he is.
Im still not to sure which one of them started this but it still does not give him the right to put his hand around her neck. Im still fucking pissed and maybe its a good thing I havent found him yet.
This is only the second time my kids have seen me like this. The last time was when 2 guys pushed my son off his bycicle and stole it. I found them in the end.

pretty much what you should do. this is reality, not a video game.

you are wrong for thinking you are wrong.....i wouldent kick his ass the first time, but nail the fucker down and scare the living shit out of him, something just shy of having to go to jail for.

If it happened again, then yes i would go to jail im sure "if it got reported"

Very true, things happened so quickly and I am normally a very calm guy but I just "lost it" and I am still very pissed at him, would it have made things worse if I did get hold of him when it happened. I just dont know. I dont even know if I could sit down and talk to him atm with the way Im still feeling.

If my SIL touched my daughter in a violent manner and I heard about it he would be in a world of hurt.

Choking is considered a warning sign for murder in domestic violence situations. According to the Chicago Women’s Health Risk Study, 12% of women whose partners choked them were later killed.

Source:http://www.thestate.com/music/story/711840.html

What are you nuts!!! It is worth the lawsuit or jail time for me to fuck him up to the point that he would never ever think of doing it to my daughter again.

In case like this Bubba, your cellmate will become your best friend and when you both get out, Bubba will ass fuck that motherfucker ten times:thumbsup:winkwink:

No doubt. I actually consider what this guy did to be tame. Lot of fathers out there see their daughter being by her husband and that daughter will be a widow.

I would be shocked to see a police officer arrest you for protecting your daughter from a violent husband. I would be even more shocked to see a DA prosecute you for assaulting him. The media and battered women's groups would have a field day with it.

"Father Jailed for Protecting Daughter from Abusive Husband"

Not exactly the kind of press those guys like.

you did what any dad should do.... If it was me he wouldnt have made it outside without me strangling him

do your thing crying or not he could have killed your daughter

Putting your hands around someone's neck is a felony in the state I live in. I would have stuck up for her too, don't feel bad for that. I wouldn't go around looking to hunt him down, but if you see it happen again then by all means kick his ass.

no one could stop me from beating a guy's ass who did this

no offense but if your daughter is mad at you when her bf is choking her she is a few sandwiches short of a picnic

I would pull him aside a talk it over with him, then tell him if he ever does it again you will beat him down.

Think about you have son 21 y.o. and someone other who is 40+ y.o. kick his ass.

What you should do in that case?

Oh the hell if I am
You don't understand Tops and Bottoms and loving hands and everything it's a long story I'm a hell of a man don't worry about it

The first thing you need to do is talk to your daughter. She needs to realize that she should under no circumstances stay in an abusive relationship. There is always a "first" time of abuse but very rarely is it the only time. If she is not willing to do it for herself then she needs to do it for her child. You need to get her counseling so she can work out why she feels that it is okay for her to be abused. Accepting any abusive action shows a lack of self respect. It may be due to the mental abuse that proceeds physical abuse.
That said if you catch the fucker, beat the hell out him. Men that abuse women are more often pussies when it comes to a fair fight. Put the fear of god in him and he might think twice before touching your daughter again if she insists on staying with him.