How do you know that you will live 80 years*?Maybe I will day soon or at 50 or 60. What then?I've ruined my life because of fear.

Exactly what I wanted to say :thumbsup

What the guy above this post said.
Exactly.

Good thread, Eric you should post more often :)

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My Ashley Madison and Pimp Mansion payments are in total agreement!!! :2 cents:

I have no experience with marriage myself, but I can imagine there can be some negatives about marriage.

Screw marriage ...be a player.

Whoa, glad i made the right decision :winkwink:

I wonder how many married men here are in the same boat but wont post cause their wives may read it :1orglaugh

Are you sure "lucky" is the right word?

Of all the dead giveaways a chick is batshit fucking crazy, actually believing astrology...

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If I would got married with my boyfriend, I would file divorcee since 10 years ago, probably daily! The word marriage scares me, thinking of the broken relationships near me. The idea of being tied up of somebody makes me insane! I want to be free, loved and to have a nice, healthy relationship, not to think everyday that I got tied up!

Be with a girl if you want and live together but don't get married unless she has more than you

Sure, there are tons of unhappy marriages everywhere but there is one important thing those guys complaining are forgetting: taking somenthing for granted.

Being with someone for a longer time you start to take for granted a lot of small or not so small things this person does for you. They dont bother you or you dont even think about them because you take them for granted. You get them every day and they make you feel good. But you dont take them into account when evaluation your situation and you only concentrate on things that make your marriage "unbearable". Small things wives do for you (and of course this goes in both ways of course - many women take things the husband does for granted) like cuddling, maybe a delicious meal, helping you fix a tshirt or tie a tie, taking kids to school,washing the clothes or dishes, going somewhere instead of you when you are busy, sharing the work load etc...I mean tons of things that we take for granted and only concentrate on bad things...

It is easy to say marriage sux and this and that while we still take all these things for granted. I 100% agree wit saying that say "only after you lose something you realize how valuable it was to you". But when you have this you hardly see sense in this saying..That is why so many people think "I should just divorce" but when they do then they lose all the good things they took for granted, not only bad things that bothered them.And they feel completely lost..heck, I have heard many people even get suicidal although they should be happy and relived getting out of supposedly bad relationship/marriage. Other people , instead of enjoying their supposed freedom, quickly jump into another ill fated relationship because the lack of things we took for granted affect you so much.

But of course, that is not in all cases - there really are so terrible marriages where the divorce is the best option.

been with my wife since 1998... we were 16 when we met :X

Figured since I have 15 years under my belt I would tell you guys what I told me older brother who got married a couple of years ago...remember it's a job too so make sure that you show up and pay attention to the little things.....women are funny about the little things...we love them :) No marriage is perfect and no couple is not going to have something that could become the downfall of their relationship...but someone once told me that all the things that drew you to the person in the first place will be the first things that annoy you after 25 years..lol so true ;) marry someone who is your friend too because that is going to be what lasts...I don't think I have ever wanted to divorce my friends....lol just my thoughts

great words of advice

On another note, what island do you live on?

Monogamy is not natural. That's why it usually fails.

My first two marriages were disasters, not going into why.

The third one should of been headed for trouble from day one. I'm in porn, Eva was 21 and I was 48, Eva was from a small town in Czech and I'm from London.

13 years later we've been through the hell of the last two years and our love is stronger than it's ever been.

You guys need to marry to live together? Now is THAT depressing thinking or what?

Community (or to you a Marriage) will go down if:
- you are not a marriage material
- you don't learn to be a marriage material

When the sex wears out and cream is licked, then you gotta work it to make it work. That's the standard. To me it's worth the "hassle".

It's like asking whether being your own boss is really all that bad. Sometimes it is. Right?

I don't know many happily married guys in NY and LA.

As a matter of fact, I have NO CLUE how a marriage works at all in LA.

Too many hot singles of all ages all the time. How does anyone stay faithful?

Indeed, I believe its something like 75% of all 3rd marriages fail. Congrats.