What are the pros and cons of staying single vs getting married?

[chaze]

My whole life I have friends that refuse to settle down and just as many actually more that are married and a small part of them that are happy.

Would you rather be married or single or just have a girlfriend?

[BIGTYMER]

I wanna be like that dude on Sister Wives.

[CyberHustler]

I'm married, got married fairly young. Having a "no-bullshit" wife to answer to has kept me out a lot of trouble, so I guess I'd rather have it like this at the end of the day.

[CyberHustler]

Every time a new Twilight movie comes out I start second guessing though...

[shade001]

I can honestly say that if I manage to escape my marriage with my cojones intact I will absolutely NEVER get married again.

The only small advantage to marriage is filing taxes. Other than that is is a nightmare if you like making your own decisions, answer to yourself and have any integrity you want to keep.

At BEST marriage is a constant state of compromises, making decisions by a committee of two and being nailed down by someone who thinks they should know every little move you make.

At worst...........let's not even go there. RUN! Run while you can. That's my absolute best and honest advice.

Don't misunderstand. I don't hate my wife nor am I bitter. I just see clearly now how entangled I am legally to another person and getting out will be costly to say the least.

[epitome]

If you don't get married then you don't have to get divorced!

[AnalProbe]

Here's your answer (no joke) :

http://www.menarebetterthanwomen.com

[bean-aid]

Marriage is like a box of chocolate, it is sweet at first and then gives you diarrhea.

Ps... Lawyers and pre-nups are your friend and should not be over looked.

Good luck, I'm sure you are in love

[ErectMedia]

Single is nice cause you don't have to answer to nobody. If I wanna jet out of town tomorrow can just take the fuck off without asking anybody shit. If I get horny run to a bar and get pussy which isn't hard in any major city.

Downside would be winter time when you don't really feel like going out as much might be nice to have a constant at home and if she cooks & cleans even better as tv dinners get old cause who the hell wants to cook and do dishes for 1 person.

Never been married but a lot of 2-3 year relationships living together so same shit. When I was in a serious relationship get pissed sometimes when friends were doing shit and ya cant go or it's a hassle to go. When single sometimes wish ya had a steady at home.

Think the perfect answer is married to someone with a job that takes them out of the house occasionally so you dont get sick of them, flight attendant etc...

[AJHall]

I think the trick is to marry a bisexual woman who believes in polygamy. I'm much happier being married than I was being single...but if I ever found myself single again, that's what I'd do.

[cykoe6]

I assume men get married because they cannot afford a housekeeper??? Otherwise it really makes no fucking no sense whatsoever.

[fuzebox]

People that complain about being married obviously aren't married to the right person...

[Mutt]

Originally Posted by fuzebox

People that complain about being married obviously aren't married to the right person...

then that would be the majority of people since the divorce rate is over 50% - which makes your supposition that it's just a matter of finding the 'right person' not very realistic. there's much more to the high divorce rate.

[VenzuelanChick]

Originally Posted by CyberHustler

Every time a new Twilight movie comes out I start second guessing though...

I still havent seen a single one of them

[tiger]

Only reason to get married is if you want kids.

[VenzuelanChick]

Dont get married until you live with your girlfriend for a while and are absolutely sure she wont bother the crap out of you.

Having an understanding grilfriend should give you the best of two worlds, a nice home environment but also time to go hang out with the boys.

[raymor]

Originally Posted by CyberHustler

Every time a new Twilight movie comes out I start second guessing though...

LOL my wife is a Twihard too.

I'd take almost any girlfriend, or no girlfriend, over my first marriage, in which I married whoever came along and neither of us knew much about how to be a married couple. After that, I dated a LOT of women. Mostly short dates, like lunch dates, up to three per day.

Through that process of going out with so many women to find the right match and doing a few other things, I found something that most people say is a fairy tale. I never thought I could have a marriage as wonderful as what I have today. I'm excited to see what's coming next and I know there is a lot more I haven't experienced, but where I'm at now is pretty awesome to me. I am deeply grateful to the people who showed me how to get here.

Originally Posted by Mutt

then that would be the majority of people since the divorce rate is over 50% - which makes your supposition that it's just a matter of finding the 'right person' not very realistic. there's much more to the high divorce rate.

I think there are two or three major parts, and marrying the right person is one of those. I married whoever came along the first time. The second time, when I knew that I could not find a better lady if I went on a thousand dates, I proceeded to look for my one in a million. The coolest chick I'd ever dated wasn't enough, I wanted the most amazing woman in the state.

Being the right person is the other. For me, if I'm not very skilled at this marriage thing, I can't expect to have a great marriage. I had to put some work into first learning how to be the kind of man who has a great marriage, then into actually DOING it. Absolute honesty can be very difficult. Even more I had to put in some real work and seek advice from others on how to become a man who would attract a one-in-million woman like my wife.


I'm really surprised because I expected the conflict and compromise that some have mentioned. Someone mentioned the committee of two. I was introduced to the concept of "one flesh" and when we keep that in mind there is no conflict. The ancient wisdom is really onto something with “And the two shall be one flesh; after that they are not two, but one flesh.” My experience in this marriage is that my wife and I argue about as much as my arm argues with my leg. You know how sometimes you have trouble making a decision, when you think to yourself "on the one hand, this, but on the other hand, that"? I think they call it "being of two minds" about something. Keeping in mind "they are not two, but one flesh", that's how my wife and I react when we see things differently - the same way we each react when one of us sees two sides of something. At rare times we may get on each other's nerves just a bit, but in the same way that a sore wrist gets on your nerves. It may bug you a bit, but you don't get angry and start a fight with your wrist. Being one flesh, yelling at my wife makes as much sense as yelling at my wrist.

So what are the pros and cons? Dating a bunch of people and having some fun while you're young is a fun and valuable experience. Today, though, that feels as far away as my first kiss on the playground. Fucking is great fun. being in the middle of the one flesh adventure, fucking kind of reminds me of cotton candy - sweet and fun, but just so much fluff compared to a real meal. I feel like I'm getting the meat and potatoes today. As happy and deeply satisfied as I am, we still haven't had kids and seen how putting effort into having a great relationship with them can be, so I'm sure there's a lot more I haven't experienced yet.

This post is already too long, but if by chance anyone is curious about it, I was taught a specific procedure to find and attract the right woman. I won't add another three paragraphs to this post writing about it, but if anyone would like to hear what I was taught and worked for me let me know.

[AllAboutCams]

Originally Posted by CyberHustler

I'm married, got married fairly young. Having a "no-bullshit" wife to answer to has kept me out a lot of trouble, so I guess I'd rather have it like this at the end of the day.

great post

[mavruda]

The good thing being married:

One day you wake up as old man - alone, no one around - sometimes the silence can be too loud. You go out to do business and there's someone waiting for you - it's warm feeling - to know someone's waiting for you, loving you. And it's an awesome pleasure to have children from the woman you love. These little guys are exact copy of you making moves exactly like you do, asking you questions you never hear anywhere and make you think or laugh. Imagine your self old, but still in shape - grey hair standing on a big table and many people around : your grown up children with their kids and your wife pouring your glass with wine, putting her hand on you shoulder smiling - and that should be enough - like she's saying: we've been through this together and we did good - look at our kids, how lovely is our life.

The good thing of being single:

Man if you cut the crap on the above you will live your life in a full speed! You can do a bungee jumping - and all the 18yo chicks standing around the bridge will get wet and will scream how cool you are. You can say: now ladies come to my place to have - you point each one of them - 1,2,3...6 !!! - so ladies, come to my place to have sevensome! All the dumb sexy chicks laugh and you get them on the back of your pickup and lead the sex meat to your condo. On the high way you're on the fast line / because you're riding more than 2 persons/ and suddenly you're seeing a family van - the guy who's driving the van is looking at you with jealousy - and no wonder : his wife is over 40s, she's fat because of the many births - man see the god damn van - it looks like incubator!!! How many kids are there - you can count that much, that's a whole tribe - a pack of little basterds ( thank god Mel Gibson let us know about the "pack" word). You blink with eye to the poor guy and you see his fingers got white - because he's squeezing the wheel way too hard ( Itsy Bitsy spide-eer!!!!.... ) Ha!
If you are single you just can't jump with a bungee only - you can do your biz, bet on a losing horse at races, fuck the neighbor wife without fear your wife will get the half of your wealth after the divorce after she finds. Yes ! It's even important all around to know that you're a good fucker - how many bored pretty house wifies are there on that street. Think about how many of them are taking it from the rear end? Man - there won't be a "periods" - if the one's bleeding, you get one that's not "wounded". Counter Strike!!!! You can go to Thailand and get a happy ending session with a lady boy without fear that you will give a very, very bad example to your 7 years old son. So fucking what?! Who would know about that ?! Everyone if you have the balls to admit - and you have the balls man, because you're SINGLE!!!

The good thing to have a girlfriend:

Basically it has all the things from the "good thing of being married", but when the bitch starts stretching your nerves you can dump her without fear of her getting you the half of your wealth. When you get another "girlfriend" and the old one's stalking you on streets yelling at you, you can always say: "She's mad - leave me alone you devil looking woman!" - it's not good to say that to your wife in public, people probably won't believe you - they would say: this married motherfucker has no brains to marry that whale - they are both mad - leave the rancor eat that man. While if you play scared of the ex gf - people would say: Save the guy from this woman, she's obsessed! Call exorcist! - and you go out clean and dry. Simple.

[Jel]

Don't get married. Being married gives you zero benefits, and a fuck load of shit should you split up.

Another one in the will never get married again camp, from someone who still loves his wife, and nope, is not bitter at all funnily enough.

[Jel]

Also not being married /= being single. Just don't get fucking married

[Jel]

Originally Posted by AnalProbe

Here's your answer (no joke) :

http://www.menarebetterthanwomen.com

lmao that is genius

[BlackCrayon]

being 60 and alone seems like it would suck but you don't have to get married to be with someone long term.

[femdomdestiny]

Almost all people I know are divorced or eating shit every day after they got married. I guess it also depends on person, but who would normal want to do shit he don't like every day, make compromises, listen things that you don't care about (please, don't tell me that there is a female with same interests as men because it not possible in the same way I've never seen a man that will spend hours in shopping and looking for shoes or useless things).

At the other hand, few days ago it seems I was sick during the night (probably eat something bad), and it is a problem when you don't have no one to help. Again, there are wives that don't care and simply want your money. So I guess it is best to have a girlfriend then because you have at least some space for yourself although that is also a big pressure,regarding my opinion.

well...I don't know is this professional deformation, but when someone say marriage, first thing that comes to me ,is cuckolding (one more reason not to get married)

[OldJeff]

No possible answer that fits everyone, some poeple should be married, some people should not. Upsides / Downsides are completely based on the individual, What some call a restriction of freedom I would call a dedication to another person.

I have been married / divorced / and married again. I guess that shows what I think is better for me.

[Kenny B!]

Originally Posted by Mutt

then that would be the majority of people since the divorce rate is over 50% - which makes your supposition that it's just a matter of finding the 'right person' not very realistic. there's much more to the high divorce rate.

I am happily married but I know the reality is the right person now might not be the right person 10-20 years from now.

The grass is always greener on the other side, but when it comes down to it I am much happier being married to my (current) wife than I was when I was single.

Keep in mind this is coming from someone who's first marriage lasted 2 months, I was young and dumb, she was a porn whore cunt! The second time around I called off the wedding a month before because she was too much of a mental case, but what a nice ass she had. Hopefully this time the porridge is just right, but who knows I've been wrong before

[CaptainHowdy]

I don't believe neither in "marriage" nor in "singlehood"...

[candyflip]

My girl and I are everything BUT married. We own a house together. Joint banking. We have three children. The car she drives is registered to me and the one I drive is registered to her.

Things are fine for me, the way they are.

[Paul Markham]

Pros to being married
Someone to do all the housework.
Built in chef.
Sex on tap.
No need to wear a condom.
She might like 3somes with girlfriends.
She can look after you when you're sick.
Does the shopping.
Goes out to work to buy food.
Comes home to cook dinner.
Wakes you up before she goes to work.
On tap taxi driver.

Cons to being married
Comes home and wants to talk to you while you're watching TV.
Sometimes hides the remote control.

No plans to go single again.

Seriously the pro is. Having someone you can't live without. To share your life with. Celebrate the ups and support each other through the downs.

Wouldn't change it for all the money in the world.

[O MARINA]

Originally Posted by cykoe6

I assume men get married because they cannot afford a housekeeper??? Otherwise it really makes no fucking no sense whatsoever.

Why you think all women cook and clean the home?

[crash_jackson]

what an discussion...

[MakingItPay]

If you stay single when you are old and ready to die, you will be all alone.

If you are married when you are old and ready to die, there will be a woman there that hates you and can't wait for you to die.

LOL

[CarlosTheGaucho]

Originally Posted by O MARINA

Why you think all women cook and clean the home?

I'm not looking for this, I take woman as a piece of art - the right woman surprises me, excites me, intrigues me up to the point that I can't help but hopelessly adore her.

I frequently realize adorable things about women, it's a total curse.

[shade001]

Originally Posted by fuzebox

People that complain about being married obviously aren't married to the right person...

That's like saying you haven't been raped by the right person.

What I don't like is having ANY person having as much power over me as a wife does. Spend a few days watching a divorce court and you might understand what I mean.

[shade001]

You can have all the magic sparkly feelings without getting married, btw.

[RyuLion]

Originally Posted by CyberHustler

I'm married, got married fairly young. Having a "no-bullshit" wife to answer to has kept me out a lot of trouble, so I guess I'd rather have it like this at the end of the day.

[MarkDeus]

[Brad]

Originally Posted by Mutt

then that would be the majority of people since the divorce rate is over 50% - which makes your supposition that it's just a matter of finding the 'right person' not very realistic. there's much more to the high divorce rate.

I don't think that is the case at all. We've all known people who still maintain a loving relationship 20-30-40-50 years into marriage. Finding the right person may not be easy, but it is a possibility for at least 90% of the population I would wager.

The issue I have seen is that people settle too quickly with someone that they should not be with and then end up getting married in the future because "it is the right thing to do" or because they have kids together, etc.

[SmokeyTheBear]

get married, the ring helps you pick up women

[O MARINA]

Originally Posted by CarlosTheGaucho

I'm not looking for this, I take woman as a piece of art - the right woman surprises me, excites me, intrigues me up to the point that I can't help but hopelessly adore her.

I frequently realize adorable things about women, it's a total curse.

Good because plenty of North American men look for other qualities in a partner for life.
This is why I will avoid USSR mentality !

[woj]

Originally Posted by SmokeyTheBear

get married, the ring helps you pick up women

seems easier to just buy the ring?

[The Porn Nerd]

Originally Posted by raymor

LOL my wife is a Twihard too.

I'd take almost any girlfriend, or no girlfriend, over my first marriage, in which I married whoever came along and neither of us knew much about how to be a married couple. After that, I dated a LOT of women. Mostly short dates, like lunch dates, up to three per day.

Through that process of going out with so many women to find the right match and doing a few other things, I found something that most people say is a fairy tale. I never thought I could have a marriage as wonderful as what I have today. I'm excited to see what's coming next and I know there is a lot more I haven't experienced, but where I'm at now is pretty awesome to me. I am deeply grateful to the people who showed me how to get here.



I think there are two or three major parts, and marrying the right person is one of those. I married whoever came along the first time. The second time, when I knew that I could not find a better lady if I went on a thousand dates, I proceeded to look for my one in a million. The coolest chick I'd ever dated wasn't enough, I wanted the most amazing woman in the state.

Being the right person is the other. For me, if I'm not very skilled at this marriage thing, I can't expect to have a great marriage. I had to put some work into first learning how to be the kind of man who has a great marriage, then into actually DOING it. Absolute honesty can be very difficult. Even more I had to put in some real work and seek advice from others on how to become a man who would attract a one-in-million woman like my wife.


I'm really surprised because I expected the conflict and compromise that some have mentioned. Someone mentioned the committee of two. I was introduced to the concept of "one flesh" and when we keep that in mind there is no conflict. The ancient wisdom is really onto something with ?And the two shall be one flesh; after that they are not two, but one flesh.? My experience in this marriage is that my wife and I argue about as much as my arm argues with my leg. You know how sometimes you have trouble making a decision, when you think to yourself "on the one hand, this, but on the other hand, that"? I think they call it "being of two minds" about something. Keeping in mind "they are not two, but one flesh", that's how my wife and I react when we see things differently - the same way we each react when one of us sees two sides of something. At rare times we may get on each other's nerves just a bit, but in the same way that a sore wrist gets on your nerves. It may bug you a bit, but you don't get angry and start a fight with your wrist. Being one flesh, yelling at my wife makes as much sense as yelling at my wrist.

So what are the pros and cons? Dating a bunch of people and having some fun while you're young is a fun and valuable experience. Today, though, that feels as far away as my first kiss on the playground. Fucking is great fun. being in the middle of the one flesh adventure, fucking kind of reminds me of cotton candy - sweet and fun, but just so much fluff compared to a real meal. I feel like I'm getting the meat and potatoes today. As happy and deeply satisfied as I am, we still haven't had kids and seen how putting effort into having a great relationship with them can be, so I'm sure there's a lot more I haven't experienced yet.

This post is already too long, but if by chance anyone is curious about it, I was taught a specific procedure to find and attract the right woman. I won't add another three paragraphs to this post writing about it, but if anyone would like to hear what I was taught and worked for me let me know.

Wonderful post man!! Very inspiring. The trouble sometimes is finding the "right person", especially when you are in the porn biz. "What do you do?" "Oh, I sell porn on the Internet....hey wait, where ya goin'?" LOL

Share the details of how you found your one in a million? Was it NLP?

[CIVMatt]

I have the most amazing woman and about to have a daughter, I can honestly say this the the happiest period of my life. The real issue is not to be with drama and non-successful women.

[Rochard]

I love the married life.

So many people get married and then get divorced, and they don't think about the damage it will do. Once of my friends is going through a divorce and it's horrible - two kids involved. Both of them can't afford to live on their own, and they have no family to turn to. The wife barely makes $800 a month and even with child support it won't be enough; The husband makes decent money but is strapped down paying off their credit cards and bills and after child support he won't be able to afford an apartment.

My wife sees all of her friends going through this, we are one of the last of our friends to still be married, and she's crapping in her pants...

[Chosen]

A girlfriend

[VenzuelanChick]

Originally Posted by PornerBros

[CDSmith]

Getting a wife so you have a maid? That's a new one. No wonder the D rate is so high. :D

I think "being alone" gets way too bad a rap. So many fear it yet in the past I've found that it's really not something to be feared. Oh gee, you can go out when you want, do what you want, eat where you want, (and WHAT you want, WHEN you want), watch what you want on TV, fart when you want,.... yeah, oooh, I'm scared just thinking about it! ha.

I can think of several people I know who are married or in long term relationships who could benefit from getting out and being alone and single for a year or more. I also know a few people who are single and alone right now who are great people and deserve to meet someone suited to them (assuming that's what they want). But it always seems to be the ones who fear the dreaded "being alone" the most that need it the most for some reason. Because they're the ones constantly seeking their happiness and validation from others when they really need to find a way to be okay with themselves first.


Me, I've done everything BUT the M word. Lived a fine single life, have been in several long termers, and have spent time alone. And I'm fine with all of it. If someone great comes along in future would I consider marriage? Of course I would. In the meantime I think I'll go fishing and get out of the maid's way.

[PornDiscounts-R]

Originally Posted by Paul Markham

Seriously the pro is. Having someone you can't live without. To share your life with. Celebrate the ups and support each other through the downs.

Be carefull Paul.. you are starting to making sence, that will confuse a lot of people here

[O MARINA]

Originally Posted by CDSmith

Getting a wife so you have a maid? That's a new one. No wonder the D rate is so high. :D

I think "being alone" gets way too bad a rap. So many fear it yet in the past I've found that it's really not something to be feared. Oh gee, you can go out when you want, do what you want, eat where you want, (and WHAT you want, WHEN you want), watch what you want on TV, fart when you want,.... yeah, oooh, I'm scared just thinking about it! ha.

I can think of several people I know who are married or in long term relationships who could benefit from getting out and being alone and single for a year or more. I also know a few people who are single and alone right now who are great people and deserve to meet someone suited to them (assuming that's what they want). But it always seems to be the ones who fear the dreaded "being alone" the most that need it the most for some reason. Because they're the ones constantly seeking their happiness and validation from others when they really need to find a way to be okay with themselves first.


Me, I've done everything BUT the M word. Lived a fine single life, have been in several long termers, and have spent time alone. And I'm fine with all of it. If someone great comes along in future would I consider marriage? Of course I would. In the meantime I think I'll go fishing and get out of the maid's way.

10/10

[shimmy2]

get yourself 2-3 good regular GFE superwhores, pay them well, treat them well, and you end up with a much more honest and rewarding situation than marriage with no stress. you have a mutually benifical relationship sans manipulation because you are paying her, alleviating expectations and bullshit, which allows you to have an even deeper friendship/relationship/fuckbuddy thing going on than you can ever possibly hope for with a wife that expects you to give all and literally lay your life down for her in the name of 'love'.